One of the primary reasons why I started traveling alone in January of 2017 was to give time to myself so I can have a better self. I’ve always put other people on top of my priorities and I’ve always felt guilty if I meet my needs first. In my mind, they must be happy first so I can be happy. If they’re not happy, I can’t be happy. This kind of mindset almost destroyed me. It’s not healthy and in the long run, I was exhausted, drained and bitter.
I’m not promoting selfishness though. What I learned from my personal experience is that there must be a balance. I came from a culture where the family is everything. Individuality is not encouraged and when you make a decision, you must always consider how it’s going to affect your loved ones.
However, I learned that I must never put myself last. At the end of the day, I am alone. Nobody’s going to buy me food or pay my bills. It’s just me. If I keep on putting myself last, I’m going to grow old and die bitter, penniless and alone. LOL.
Here are 30 things that I am trying to apply in real life to a better self:
Part 1 – The Importance of Mental Health
I started reading about Morning Affirmations years ago. Probably in 2013 or 2014 but at that time, I didn’t believe in its positive effects. I didn’t believe in its power to change my mindset, actions and ultimately my overall life.
Then 2017 came and I decided to give it a try. There’s nothing to lose and it only takes a few minutes. Months later, I started seeing a big difference in my wealth and health conditions. It’s not magic. Everything starts in the mind. The quality of your life begins in your thoughts.
When it comes to money, I started getting better income opportunities. I just stopped working with cheap clients and started chasing better-paying ones. When it comes to health, I began taking small steps to improve my bowel movements. I suffer from constipation and it’s been getting better since then.
Anyway, here are 10 wealth and health morning affirmations that I recite before I start the day. I put my hand on my chest while saying these affirmations:
(1) I attract all things that I need to succeed in business and relationships.
(2) Anxiety is temporary. It doesn’t define me. I am in control. I made it through before and I will make it through again.
(3) I have joy and energy bursting inside of me.
(4) I set healthy boundaries. I allow myself to walk away from things, people, places or situations that give bad vibes.
(5) I welcome happiness and wealth into my life. God’s riches are abundant and unlimited. He is blessing me abundantly.
(6) Money flows to me easily and effortlessly from expected and unexpected sources.
(7) I create an avalanche of abundance and I give back in generous and amazing ways.
(8) I deserve financial abundance, physical and mental health, and loving relationships.
(9) I attract happy, powerful, positive, and kind people into my life.
(10) I attract abundance and unlimited graces with my gratitude mindset.
Part 2 – The Importance of Alone Time
I am intensely introvert and I crave alone time. Not everyone is like me. You might be an extrovert so you will need to spend time with crowds to feel alive. However, I still believe that even extroverts need an alone time every once in a while. This will help you recharge and think things through.
Here are 10 simple ways that I do to give time to myself:
(11) Sit in silence for 30 minutes. Just sit and savor the moment. Don’t think of anything and try to clear your mind.
(12) Take a hot bath. Deep condition your hair. Put on essential oils or organic coconut oil to your body.
(13) Go on solo shopping. Shop for a new outfit, shoes or bag. Don’t do it with your friends. Do it alone. Experiment what you’re going to pick without anyone’s advice or opinion.
(14) Visit a not-so-far-away coffee shop and watch people passing by.
(15) Read a book. Pick a place where you can have solitude. Choose a book that will challenge or inspire you.
(16) Start a creative project. It could be art painting or sculpting. You can also try water coloring and charcoal sketching.
(17) Create a playlist of your favorite bands and listen to these songs for several hours.
(18) Redecorate your room. Make an inventory of your belongings. Give away those things that are rarely used. Keep only those things that are used all the time and those that excite you and give you joy.
(19) Sign up for volunteer work. Choose an organization that you believe in. It could be a group that helps save dogs and cats. It could be a group that saves victims of human trafficking. Etcetera.
(20) Plan your meal for the week. Search for recipes that keep you healthy and strong.
Part 3 – The Importance of Happy Relationships
We all struggle with difficult people. Some of us may be dealing with a narcissistic partner while others are dealing with a bully boss. Maybe you think that there’s nothing you can do. But the truth is you have the power to kick them out of your life. You don’t have to just accept the situation.
Here are 10 things you can do to keep your relationships happy and healthy:
(21) Don’t neglect your personal needs.
If you keep on ignoring your needs to meet somebody else’s needs, you’ll get tired and bitter.
(22) Pursue your personal goals and ambitions.
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to forget your passions. You can still do what ignites your soul.
(23) Never love anyone to that extent that you refuse to see the truth about them.
Nobody’s perfect. But you don’t have to keep up with being abused. Set boundaries and know when it’s time to go.
(24) Always have your own money, own business and own investments.
You know the saying, “Love won’t keep us alive.” Love won’t pay the bills. So you gotta hustle, save up and invest. In this way, money would be one less thing to fight about.
(25) Don’t agree when you feel like disagreeing.
You can say you’ll think more about it or politely say that you don’t agree. Being respectful and using a polite tone is the key.
(26) Don’t make your partner the center of your universe.
While being in a romantic relationship, it’s important to keep nourishing your relationship with your friends, family, and colleagues. Keep on going out with your trusted friends and don’t cut out yourself from other people.
(27) Draw a clear line of your personal boundaries and call out people when they cross the line.
This includes emotional, physical and mental limits. Know how you want to be treated and what you don’t want to be done to you. This is extremely important to preserve your self-worth and self-image.
(28) Know when to stop giving.
A toxic relationship is when you always give and the other person always takes. There must be a balance.
(29) Be brave and be prepared to let go of any toxic person in your life.
You don’t have to destroy your own self to help a loved one. Keep distance while helping them. You have to save yourself first.
(30) Seek help.
When you’re stressed, burn-out or depressed, don’t hesitate to ask for help. Choose people that you can trust and will try to understand your situation.
All the best!