6. Happiness is a decision that must come from within
Do you want to escape the loneliness of life? I don’t want to burst your bubble, but traveling is not the absolute answer. Veteran travelers will probably throw tomatoes at me and say, “You’re wrong! Travel is the answer to every problem of the world!” Haha. Joke.
Before I started traveling alone, I was crying every night and asking, “What have I done with my life?” No, it’s not depression. Depression is not only a big word, but it’s also a medical term. I’d like to call it sadness or quarter-life crisis.
Anyway, traveling makes me happy because I made a decision to make myself happy. I chose an activity that will make me happy and that activity is traveling. Watching Korean dramas and animes still make me happy. Reading still makes me happy.
Someone from Quora asked me how I keep myself happy when I’m not traveling. It’s a good question, right? I need to emphasize that happiness is a personal decision.
No. I don’t rely on traveling to keep myself happy since I can’t do it all the time. But travel keeps me excited and motivated. More importantly, it releases me from the past (the worst prison). Travel is a good reason to be at the moment and gives me something to look forward to.
7. Go out and try life
Communication is something that I struggle with. I’ve always blamed my introverted personality for my lack of ability to interact smartly with other humans. But I realized that sometimes I’m just being self-absorbed and I need to open myself to possibilities.
The Korean girl in Boracay was probably trying to be friends with me and asking a lot of questions. Instead of taking that as an opportunity to win a friend, I just answered her questions. I should have also asked her about her travel experiences.
Showing interest is important. This is a lesson I learned in Kindergarten but rarely applied in real life. On my next trip, I will try to be friendlier and the best way to do it is to be interested.
P.S. You don’t have to travel alone to learn these things 😀 In my case, I just needed to be away to open my eyes. Let me know what you’ve learned from your solo travel experience.